It is now the day after my birthday, and I feel like I’ve done the impossible : i’ve deactivated/deleted all of my social media sites /apps. I’ve been planning this for a few weeks, and I can’t believe it’s already here. I already feel calmer.
This morning, I couldn’t log into my Facebook account. Apparently a screenshot that I had posted was considered a violation of their terms, and as such, I was thrown in “Facebook jail.” Which was perfect, considering I want planning on going back to the site anyway.
After a careful review of their community guidelines, I’ve determined that it was more about the other person being bitter than it was about me posting something that was considered abusive. The closest thing I can think of that I might have done was harassment, and even that’s a stretch.
There’s a person I follow on Facebook, someone I admire. Recently, he’s been doing daily Black Female Fitness Motivation posts, because as a whole, black women are delusional when it comes to their weight and body. We use terms like “thick” or “curvy” when it’s really just fat. We have some of the highest obesity rates in the country. And they try to drag down everyone who isn’t in their demographic. And then have the nerve to want a man who’s slim, but gets upset at men who don’t want to date overweight chicks.
The vast majority of women on his page agree with him. The thing is, he’s not even trying to use the aesthetic angle. It really is a matter of health. How can we be active members in the Pro – black movement when we aren’t even healthy? And there are stories after stories after stories of people going to gyms or running tracks or taking all sorts of fitness classes, and they’ll see everyone else except black women. I don’t go to the gym myself (I work at home,) but when I’m on the bus passing a track, if I do see black women, they’re old.
So, one day he posted a picture of Stacy Dash. It was a recent photo of her, at age 46, probably looking better than most black women half her age. There was this one female who claimed it wasn’t “inspiring.” She was full of contradictions, but it all boiled down to she didn’t like the woman. The post mentioned nothing about her politics, who she was sleeping with, etc. But she really was “hating,” and I rarely use that term because it’s morphed into someone simply not agreeing. She was deleted, and immediately afterwards, the picture mysteriously was reported for “nudity and pornography.” Why would she do that?
I think the same thing happened to me. There was a picture posted of a woman before doing squats and afterwards. A female said she didn’t think squats could do all of that. Many people, including several fitness trainers, told her otherwise. She goes on her page and starts complaining about how “niggers never get stuff done.” I took a screenshot of that posted it on the thread. And it started there for HOURS. I posted it up there to show how bitter she was, because a LOT of females do that.
OK, MAYBE it was an issue of privacy. But not really. Because if someone has an open page, then that information is freely available. I didn’t post about her whereabouts or what college she goes to or her work. They were just statuses. And for her (I’m presuming it was her) to report me just because people corrected her is very silly.
But I think it was in good timing. I don’t understand how people can have two separate identities, one in real life, and another on the Internet (there are some exceptions, of course). But I’ve noticed I had been coming increasingly belligerent. And even though I’m not AS belligerent in real life, it was definitely bleeding into my real life. To me, I cannot separate the two into neat little boxes. Just like you can’t separate all your little quirks and personality things into boxes. Changes you do in one part of your life will spill into another. That’s just how it is. I don’t know if my real life presence fed into the digital life or vice versa. But I think it’s good that I’m taking a step back. Because it’s not that serious. If people want to be bitter or hateful for no apparent reason, so be it. It’s not my job to educate them, or oust them.
Maybe it’s all this Scorpio energy everywhere? Or Pluto?